A Midweek's Daydream

It's Wednesday...my favourite day of the week, for several reasons. One, CSI:Miami is playing tonight on AXN, and good entertainment is so hard to come by. Two, I get to join Jo and Lia for dinner again at his parents' house. And three: It's the middle of the bloody week! Yay! Only one more day remaining before the long weekend (for me at least, since I'll be off on Friday through Monday..hehehe.

Still, it's been a busy week (as always) for the Ox, and am rushing between several different tasks now, hoping I can get some things done before I go back home this weekend. Met my benefactor again last night, to return her Sandman books, get some more and also reciprocate by lending her several of my Gaiman books. Needless to say, I only dozed off at 3 am, since apparently by reading about him, Morpheus is hesitant to put ME to sleep. Oh well.

Heard from a friend yesterday that a mutual acquaintance is having problems with her marriage. Of all the things I pray I never hear, this must rank in the top 10. I like to think of myself as a realist, especially considering the transitory nature of relationships in the 21st century. But once in awhile, my idealistic sentiments shine through, and it saddens me to hear that somewhere a married couple is having trouble, and may even be considering the D-word. Hell, why not say it: Divorce.

There. I've said it, and I'm very well aware of the challenges facing couples (married or otherwise) in these trying times. And if my observations are correct, I'm not the only one aware either. Here's something you may want to try: Head to a newsstand/bookstore and pick up any mag (men's or women's). Chances are there'll at least be some tips on "How to Keep the Sizzle Alive" or some such article. Which is good, in a way. We could use all the help we can get, that's what I say.

Sometimes, things just don't work out, no matter how hard they both try..and ultimately separation is the only answer. I won't kid myself by thinking I'll NEVER be like that, or that it's anyone's fault in particular. I've had too many friends who come from broken homes, hearing stories of how Raya is never Raya, of arguments and screaming...It just..saddens me, in a way. Maybe it's because I DO hope to get married someday (hopefully to a person I love and loves me back) and yes, even raise kids (I'd like the first one to be a daughter please...heheh).

There's still a long way to go before I reach that stage, perhaps..but maybe today, we could all do something. If you're in a relationship (married/dating what have you), give your partner a call. Tell him/her how you feel. Leave a note in the fridge. Get flowers for no reason, or take them out to dinner. Look at the sunset, make plans for the weekend and do it..anything. If you don't have a special other...well call up your parents/siblings. Talk to them, ask how their day went. And be thankful that they're still with us, that we have someone to love.

Sometimes the simplest things in life are the ones that are the most difficult to get.

Am I an Idealist? Perhaps. Even a romantic, maybe, in some weird way. Or maybe having loved and lost, I've learnt too late to appreciate what I had...and I hope no one has to feel that yearning.

Have a good mid-week, friends.